Falling in love for many people is a walk in the park. For many others, however, venturing into a relationship is like going to a battle. A relationship is put to test when one's true color comes into the picture, thereby tainting a rather happy frame of romance with hues of disdain and discomfort.
It is always good to salvage a relationship from the brink of extinction. When reality, however, dictates that no matter how much you wade in the waters of hope, you will imminently lose your her, you're left with two options "swim back to the shore or drown in misery". Those who choose to sink in grief are dead by now or boobbing up and down in the water of uncertainties. Those who choose to coast until they reach the shore are anchored on finding hope, finding life and finding love again.
The art of letting go is mathematically proportional to the art of self-preservation. Like all ethics and etiquettes, letting go and preserving one-self are crafts that can be mustered and mastered by people who want to get out of the crude and vicious cycle. These skills are summation of one's conscious conviction - albeit peppered and punctured with nerve wracking and heartwrenching feelings - to be happy and complete in one's silence and solitude.
Love makes the world go round, sure. I say, however, that loving yourself more by letting go of someone who loves you less (or doesn't love you at all) makes you a better person.
In the department of romance, many fall prey in their own emotional trap. They almost always blame themselves for the collapse of the relationship. You hear them say: "Probably i am not good enough", or "it is because i dont look good anymore". These are incantations of individuals who are emotionally battered; those who do not love themselves. Many times, they will fight tooth and nail just to win back a no-win situation. They become destructive of themselves, defeating the very essence of life, survival.
What they refuse to recognize is that many suffer from a broken heart because they don't want to move on. Why hold on to your love for someone who, come hell or high water, would not love you or will not fulfill her end of the bargain of loving you back. Why do you have to stick it out with someone who will choose either the devil or the deep blue sea but you. If someone you love has clearly pointed out that you're no more than friends, please be brave enough to win this defeating situation or you will die brokenhearted.
Letting go starts from the ultimate conviction that you love yourself more and you believe you dont deserve to be hurt. Happiness is a responsibility. We have options in life, and yes, the ultimate option is to remove that happiness from within us. When you finally discover that happiness is an inside job, then you will appreciate that there are more people who are worth loving and caring for.
Get up! So what if the person of your dreams doesn't love you? Life does not stop there.
Redeem yourself by letting go.
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